The Domino Effect

When I share with people what I do, I often receive the response of, “Boy, do I need you!” The conversation usually then continues on to the question of, “But how can I simplify my “stuff” if my spouse/family/kids never want to get rid of anything?”If this sounds like a conversation you and I might have, I’d like you to know that you are not alone! We all come to our relationships with our own “stuff story” and it’s not uncommon for one member of your household’s story to be out of alignment with another’s.The key is to take the lead and see if they’ll follow. First, remember that simplifying is a process and it takes time. I suggest starting with your own personal items and see what you can let go of. Show your family members what you’re getting rid of. Then, as you live in your simplified space, tell them how great it’s making you feel. Help them see how beneficial it is to have less excess. Of course, the intent is to do this in a graceful, loving way, not a bitter, “I told you so” kind of way!Gradually you can start to work into areas of your home that are shared spaces. Focus on the areas with items that are not sentimental such as the pantry, the laundry room or the bookshelf. Be careful to be as non-judgmental as possible when going through items with others. As best as you can, have an objective discussion about the items and decide together if they are adding value to your lives. Good communication is critical. If the going gets tough, take a break and try again at a later date. Remember, simplifying is a process…Often, when someone witnesses another person experiencing the benefits of living with less, they start to come around to the idea that life can be okay if you let the excess go. When they start to realize this, your personal efforts will have a domino effect on them. It might take a little time, but give it a try!I’d love to hear how this process works for you-send me a note!To Simplicity & Joy,Lisa